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100 1  Karlen, Neal.|0
245 10 Shanda :|bthe making and breaking of a self-loathing Jew /
       |cNeal Karlen. 
264  1 New York ;|aLondon :|bSimon & Schuster,|c[2004] 
264  4 |c©2004 
300    xiv, 208 pages ;|c24 cm 
336    text|btxt|2rdacontent 
337    unmediated|bn|2rdamedia 
338    volume|bnc|2rdacarrier 
500    "A Touchstone book." 
505 00 |g1.|tUncle Tom Jew|g1 --|g2.|tShanda|g9 --|g3.|tA 
       Stranger on a Plane|g19 --|g4.|tFifth Son at the Seder 
       Table (Who No Longer Shows Up)|g26 --|g5.|tHome, Alone|g36
       --|g6.|tMensch or the Golem|g46 --|g7.|tTugs|g55 --|g8.
       |tHasid Everyone Likes|g70 --|g9.|tWorst Guest|g77 --|g10.
       |tRevelations, and Rabbis Who Say, "I Don't Know"|g87 --
       |g11.|tFathers and Sons|g93 --|g12.|tSpiritual Airports
       |g105 --|g13.|tTefillin and the Art of Sandy Koufax|g114 -
       -|g14.|tRabbi Caro Explains It All for You|g128 --|g15.
       |tSomething to Believe in|g140 --|g16.|tConnecting|g150 --
       |g17.|tWelcoming the Queen: The Miracle of the Sabbath
       |g156 --|g18.|tBootlegging the Shtetl Wine|g168 --|g19.
       |tMissing Jigsaw Piece|g174 --|g20.|tOne Page Ahead of the
       Studient|g185 --|g21.|tBat Mitzvah, Charlie Parker, and 
520    Early in his memoir, Neal Karlen tells a rabbi, "I love 
       Judaism. It's Jews I can't stand." 
520 80 What he means is that he hates the parochialism and 
       material trappings of the young Jews he knows: Their new 
       temples are gilded and the parking lots spill over with 
       luxury cars. Religion for them is a quest for a Jewish 
       wife from "the right" family and a big house and splendid 
       clothes. Gone is the soulful practice of tradition that 
       his grandparents brought over from Russia. Karlen sees 
       communities from New York to Los Angeles of Jewish status 
       seekers and he can't stand the thought of being identified
       as one of them. Frustrated and embarrassed, Karlen stops 
       looking for the Jewish enclave that fits him and, for the 
       next ten years, simply rejects Judaism. He antagonizes 
       rabbis. He becomes the token Jew among his Midwestern 
       friends and the buffoon at cocktail parties with a shtick 
       of Jewish jokes and imitations that cross the line. And 
       then one day, Karlen goes too far: he marries a blue-eyed 
       Protestant from a family with an anti-Semitic bent. The 
       marriage is doomed. At midlife Karlen discovers that he 
       belongs nowhere and that the Jew he really hates is 
       himself. He is a shanda -- a shame. 
520 80 Written with irreverent zest and poignancy, Shanda is 
       Karlen's story of finding his way back to Judaism -- and 
       the Jewish community. His guide is an unlikely one: Rabbi 
       Manis Friedman, the renowned Hasidic scholar with a beard 
       to his chest and a fedora that makes him look like "Sam 
       Spade about to go out in the rain." The Rabbi invites 
       Karlen to study with him. In their weekly meetings devoted
       to scholarship and Jewish ritual, Karlen asks the 
       questions that assimilated Jews grapple with, such as "How
       do we bring meaning to the practice of Judaism?" "Where is
       the line between Jewish and too Jewish?" and "What does it
       mean to be Jewish-American and ashamed by Judaism?" Rabbi 
       Friedman leads Karlen up the mountain to find these 
       answers -- and shows both author and reader the stunning 
       view from the top. Ultimately, this odd couple discovers 
       what it means to be a good person -- not just a good Jew. 
       At its heart, Shanda is about their surprising friendship 
       and the ways that people change -- and change each other. 
       At once hilarious and heartbreaking, it is a parable for 
       anyone who has ever questioned his faith or has lost his 
600 10 Karlen, Neal|0
600 10 Friedman, Manis.|0
650  0 Jews|0
650  0 Journalists|0
650  0 Jewish journalists|0
650  0 Habad.|0 
650  0 Self-hate (Psychology)|0
650  0 Self-acceptance|xReligious aspects|xJudaism. 
650  0 Jews|xReturn to Orthodox Judaism.|0
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